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Gender(masculine&feminine) is cultivated by society. "Once I got out of the man box, I feel whole, worthy , the right to be loved and a sense of belonging with the peers."

Feminism is not only beneficial for female but also male. Only when male can be what they like rather than cater to what society wants, they can treat female as companion rather than object.

When I asked a 8-year-old boy what he likes to be when growing up, he said A venture capitalist, I know there is too much problem.

Lies every boy learns are we associate masculine with athletic abilities, economic success and sexual conquest. If men chasing these all their lives, they will never feel authetically themselves.

Men are taught not to talk about sadness so they are inclined to use alcohol and drugs to deal with their emotions. This also answers my question why men are more likely to addicted to cigarettes.

It astonished me that this documentary is directed by a woman. This poetry by Nancy Smith convey very similar belief as this director so I would like to share.

For Every Woman
By Nancy R. Smith, copyright 1973

For every woman who is tired of acting weak when she knows she is strong, there is a man who is tired of appearing strong when he feels vulnerable.

For every woman who is tired of acting dumb, there is a man who is burdened with the constant expectation of 'knowing everything.'

For every woman who is tired of being called 'an emotional female,' there is a man who is denied the right to weep and to be gentle.

For every woman who is called unfeminine when she competes, there is a man for whom competition is the only way to prove his masculinity.

For every woman who is tired of being a sex object, there is a man who must worry about his potency.

For every woman who feels 'tied down' by her children, there is a man who is denied the full pleasures of shared parenthood.

For every woman who is denied meaningful employment or equal pay, there is a man who must bear full financial responsibility for another human being.

For every woman who was not taught the intricacies of an automobile, there is a man who was not taught the satisfactions of cooking.

For every woman who takes a step toward her own liberation, there is a man who finds the way to freedom has been made a little easier.